It’s time to put yourself in time out! Yes, you! I know that this is something that we usually use for our children as a form of discipline, but sometimes, us adults need this too! We too need a little discipline every now and then. Discipline reminds us of what we’re supposed to be doing. It happens when our lives or attitudes have began to spin out of control. Discipline brings us back to the reality of our focus, whether that’s marriage, family or business. Discipline is a mandatory part of life. Always!
Recently I attended an Christmas Tea. Not sure if you’ve heard of that or have ever been to one. When I first moved to the South a few years ago, I had no clue what a Christmas Tea was. However, I was intrigued and didn’t want to miss it. Now each year I hope that I get invited back again.
At this event, it’s a time to reflect. A time to sit back and listen. To observe what is important in your life.
A Time out.
When we were children, or if you have children, you are probably very aware of time out. I know it’s something I used, and I’m pretty sure I had my fair share of sitting in time outs too.
Why do we use a time-out? What is it for?
Let’s define Time Out first:
time out: noun
- time for rest or recreation away from one’s usual work or studies.
- a brief break in play in a game or sport
- synonyms: pause, break, rest
- an imposed temporary suspension of activities, especially the separation of a misbehaving child from one or more playmates as a disciplinary measure.
A Time Out is a break, a rest away from one’s usual work, or a time to suspend an activity because it has become a problem.
We can easily see why children need time outs often, but do we realize that we, as adults need them too.
The challenge is, who’s going to put us in a time out?
God surely can, however, I recommend that you put yourself in a time out before He needs to!
Life can get out of hand at times, sometimes way too often. Especially during the holidays or during a time in your life when there is a major event going on.
We run (not as in exercise!) non-stop. Worrying about getting things done. Becoming so busy that we forget our daily routines (like exercise). Putting our families to the side. Leaving a trail of a mess behind us.
And this happens to just about everyone, no matter what your personality is. If you have a Powerful Choleric personality, you’re a driver, get a ton of things done, non-stop. You really need to slow down. If not, you could be on your way to a major breakdown! You need a time out!
If your personality is more of a Popular Sanguine, fun-loving, life of the party personality, then you may be attending or hosting too many parties or events. You could overwhelm yourself and go into a small or huge pity party. You need a time out!
Are you a Perfect Melancholy personality? One that needs perfection in every aspect of your life? Organized like no other, keeping to a schedule and never deviating. Your family may be suffering with your rigorous schedule. You may miss out on all the fun and spontaneous parts of life. You need a time out!
If you are a Peaceful Phlegmatic personality, you may not have as much to worry about or need to slow down like the other personalities do. However! You may be in a I don’t feel like doing anything mood. Or being very indecisive. Maybe your lack of enthusiasm for life is draining those around you. You need a time out!
I urge you, no matter what your personality type is, to take a time out. Reflect on what is going on in your life right now and how life has been for the last several weeks. This is not a New Years resolution thing. Just a little time out to slow down, to take a break, a suspension of your current activities. Something you should do often, not just once a year.
During this time out, listen to relaxing music. Talk to God. Think.
What can you do to slow down and to refocus on what’s important in life?
Are you leaving your family behind and are they wondering where their momma went?
When was the last time you paid attention to your husband?
Is everything you’re doing right now necessary?
Can you cut anything out or postpone an activity to later?
Without these time outs, we are not able to be disciplined. Not able to see something that we may be missing. Discipline is not a bad thing, even though it’s the end of the world to children, and even it can feel like that to us as well.
Discipline is taking a break and pulling our lives back together.
I encourage you to give yourself a Time Out this week! Just do it! Don’t hesitate. Don’t wait for the opportune time. You know the saying, “don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today”.
Let’s all take a Time Out!!
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