I was just finishing up a study on the family unit, specifically the Family Life Cycle. That alone is so intriguing. One main aspect of it has got my brain thinking and wondering why we have left behind so much wisdom and knowledge and shoved it under a rug. Swept it away and thrown it in the trash.
Maybe it’s because we are now a society that lives for ourselves. It’s all about me, do you remember that song? We have been taught to think, what’s in it for me? How is that going to help me or advance me. What are you going to do for me? Me. Me. Me
Are you tired of hearing about me yet!! I know I am.
I’m right there along with everyone else. Swept up in the fascination of me.
However, I’ve been a lot of thinking lately. How is all the me-business going to make anyone’s life any better? What will I be known for? Will anyone have benefitted from what I have left behind? Or will I have been so consumed with taking care of me, that I’m the only one that will notice I’m not around anymore?
This “me” way of life is really harming the very foundation of the family unit. A matter of fact, it’s destroying it. The divorce rate is constantly growing. Child abuse is abounding. Friendships are more superficial than ever. Family is becoming less and less important and more and more dysfunctional.
So how do we change this? How do we not only put a bandaid on the would, but actually heal it?
It starts with you. You are the key. Without you, there is no tomorrow.
We have to begin with recognizing the older generations. Our parents. Our grandparents. I feel like our society sticks all of the older generation in a nursing facility as soon as they have one mishap. Do you know how much information, wisdom and knowledge is locked up in those facilities?
If you are blessed enough to still have older family around, you need to take advantage of that. It’s time to start recognizing them for who they are and the wisdom they carry with them.
Ask them questions. Seek their advice. It doesn’t mean you have to do everything they say. But goodness, they have lived for 60, 70, 80, 90 years! They may just have an answer you need.
Not only should we pursue the older generations, but at all times in your life you should seek out a mentor a coach. Someone that is a step or two or ten ahead of you. Someone that has been there, done that. Quit trying to live life by yourself and figure out the solution to the problem. I promise that whatever you’re going through, someone else already did. They survived with a few bumps and scrapes and have lived to tell about it.
If you are a new parent, seek out older parents. If you are newly married, seek out those that have been married for five years longer than you. If you have older parents and don’t know what to do, seek those that have already taken that path.
You need this support system. You need a mentor or coach. Someone that has experienced life and can steer you in the right direction. No you don’t need to pay someone to be your coach. You have the resources all around you. Just look.
Not only do you need to seek these people out. But YOU need to BE this person too. Others need you. This is where we need to forget about the me, me, me stuff. Seek out those that are experiencing trouble in their life, someone that is going through something you already survived. Grab their hand, tell them it’s going to be ok and you are there for them.
It’s amazing when we reach out to help someone, how our circumstances that seem impossible all of sudden fade away or are answered when we least expect it and aren’t so focused on our problems.
You are the key to the future. It takes you to show the way.
Our younger generations depend on what we do today. If we stay in this me-mode, what hope do our children have? Who will they look up to? How can they depend on us when all we’ve thought about is me?
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