Thanksgiving is almost here and so is the stress! Are you prepared to handle all the family? Or are you planning on just swinging it? Having a plan is essential to having a successful day. Even if that plan includes only concentrating on surviving the holidays.
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10 Tips To Help You Survive Your Family This Thanksgiving
- Take charge of seating
- Create a seating chart and place cards. If two relatives don’t get along, don’t sit them next to each other.
- There doesn’t have to be alcohol
- If alcohol has been a problem in the past, then just leave it out this year. Have plenty of other options and have a great time without the stress of an rowdy crowd.
- Guide the conversation
- Don’t let politics and religion or harmful family issues ruin the day. Politely change the subject (without saying “I’m changing the subject”) and move everyone away from a potential fight to something more enjoyable to talk about.
- Find a way to include the kids, then set them free
- Kids don’t like to linger at the the table with adults. It gets boring. Have an activity at the table for them to do, then release them to go play outside where you have already set up activities or if the weather is cold, an indoor craft or activity will do just fine.
- Give challenging relatives an assignment
- Pay a moping teen to entertain the younger children. If there is a family member that is always critical of a menu item, have them be in charge of bringing or making that dish. Let them shine.
- This is not the time to try to fix everyone’s life at the Thanksgiving Table
- Try to remember the reason for getting together. Find the blessings in others and talk about what there is to be thankful for.
- Thanksgiving is not about you
- Take the time to listen to others. If you find yourself talking constantly, just stop. If the other person in the conversation notices that you stopped, they will ask you to continue. If they don’t ask, then they weren’t listening. Ask them about them!
- Ask for help
- Don’t be a Debbie-Do-It-All. Ask for help! Accept help when it’s offered
- Offer help
- If you’re going to someone else’s home for Thanksgiving, don’t plan to sit around and relax the entire day. Get up and do something. Help. Preparations, cooking and cleaning duties should be shared. Of course unless help has been hired out for the day!
- Don’t be hard on yourself
- Everything will not be perfect and no one is expecting it to. And if they are, who cares!
That last one is the most important! Give yourself credit. You deserve it, but don’t be too hard on yourself. They holidays don’t have to be perfect to enjoy them. Actually the more perfect you try to make them, the less enjoyable they become.
Remember, breathe! You can make it.
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