Respect At Home = Love For You

Men need to be respected. It’s part of who they were created to be. We need love, that’s how we were created. Bottom line, if your husband does not feel that he is getting respect, especially in his home, he will never be able to show you love. If you want love, there is only one way. R-E-S-P-E-C-T

If you are reading this, then you are probably already married, meaning, you need to to learn to respect the man that God has already blessed you with! You don’t need a new man for a happy life, just a new commitment to respecting your husband.

Since the feminist movement in the 60’s, most of us have been shown and taught how to become independent, rely solely on ourselves and never need a man for anything (that was me). In that teaching, whether it was intentional or not, the message they shared has turned into not respecting men, in any capacity. As if that would get women what they want or need.

In the midst of the wonderful feminist *sarcasm inserted here* movement, families have fallen apart. Divorce has risen to outrageous rates. Children are left in the dust to fend for theirselves and pick theirselves back up from terrible family disputes, ugly divorces and downright mean attitudes.

Now that we’re in a time greater than no other, why can’t we get this marriage thing right? We have every resource, every study, lots of experience from others and the ability to have a happy life. Why does it seem that the family unit has just crumbled to a mere nothing? That marriages are failing at an alarming rate?

It’s as simple as respect! When we can learn to respect our men again, our families will become whole. No, it’s not the full answer, but it’s a major first step in getting it right.

Most husbands have not experienced much respect from their wives, even in their own homes. Many husbands are used to being berated, put down, humiliated, reduced to a child, in front of others by their wives. Ouch!

Often if there is a family dispute with in-laws, a wife won’t even come to her husband’s defense in their own home. She often sides with the ones coming against her husband. This is so unfortunate. When you marry, you are a team, with each other. You are supposed to stand up for your man. You may not always agree with him but you should always be his cheerleader and supporter.

Other instances of disrespect in your home, is when you want something in the home and he doesn’t. How many times do you beg, whine, complain and manipulate until you get your way? If he is against something you want, find out why. He may not feel it’s the right time or the finances are not there. Maybe he just doesn’t like the idea of something new, like a pet. Talk to him. Find out why. Honor his wishes. It’s his home too!

Marriage is a give-and-take relationship. It’s a sharing time. You need to learn how to compromise with each other. How to work together without manipulating him into your ideas and wants.

Your husband loves you and wants to do anything to make you happy. Will you block everyone of those opportunities by not respecting him? If it always has to be your way, you are showing him that you do not care about his feelings or what he wants. How can he make you happy if he thinks that you don’t value him or need him?

HOW TO RESPECT HIM IN HIS HOME

• Let him make decisions.
• Don’t always get your way.
• Discuss with him before changing something big in the home.
• Ask him before buying something new for the home.
• If he doesn’t like your idea for a change in the home, accept that, it’s his house too.
• Don’t make him look bad in front of your family or friends.
• Never put your children in a situation where they have to choose you or your husband.
• Show your appreciation for him in front of your children.
• Let him have his space in the home.
• Treat him like a man, not your girlfriend.
• Your husband is more important than housework. He needs you.

Too many wives lose out on so many opportunities to be loved by their husbands when they choose to disrespect them. If this is you, you are missing out on a happy and fulfilled marriage. When you buy into a destructive pattern of treating men terrible, the outcome will never be good. If you believe that you will become better by treating him bad, someone has fooled you.

Don’t fall for what so many other wives have done in their marriages. If you don’t want what they have, don’t do what they do.

Be the one that adores your husband and brags to other about him. Let them know how great of a husband and father he is. Appreciate the man that God gave to you. See your husband as a gift, not a chore or something to conquer. You can make the first steps to making your marriage a great one. It just takes a little change and a little work. The benefit will be better than you can imagine.

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