Silly question right? Why DO I keep buying bananas and how in the world can this even possibly relate to family, marriage, parenting or building relationships?
Buying bananas for me makes me feel good! There is hope when buying them. The hope of a healthier lifestyle. Eating something good for me. Turning the page of old habits and creating new ones. Dreaming of a future that is full of accomplishments and happiness.
Who knew bananas could have so much meaning. That they could be so important!!
There is a problem.
I keep buying them, and…
Leaving them on the table looking all pretty and with the impression that I have a healthy lifestyle until they turn brown, mushy, gross and then right into the garbage they go.
Another round of failure. Nothing accomplished. Wasted time and effort (of just thinking about what I want).
Why oh why didn’t I just eat them?
They were right there in front of me, literally, everyday. Waiting in anticipation (as if bananas were alive!) for me to have a better future.
What I noticed about my banana-buying-process is that it’s much like life and our relationships.
Bananas – Relationships. Yeah, I see the connection! Do you?
There are times that I want our marriage to be better. To get along for once. To be happy.
I buy books, take classes and go to conferences with the hopes and dreams that our marriage will be better. Do you ever do this? Maybe it’s just me. I’m kind of a conference junkie!
Those books start collecting dust (lots, I have a Lab!), the classes and conference notes and thoughts start to slip into the back of my mind, behind all the thoughts of why can’t our marriage be better.
Nothing happens. I bought the books. I went to the conferences.
But! I never took a bite of that banana.
I never opened that book.
I never took the actual steps that were taught at the conference to start making a difference in my marriage.
No eaten banana. No change.
I have learned this lesson many times over in my life. I do open the books now. I do try to take as many action steps that I can to improve myself and work on our marriage.
I still have those moments though, of failure. Of not moving on through the next steps of hope and a better future.
I finally took a bite of my banana this morning. It was a bit brown, a little mushy and not the best tasting. But I did it. The first step.
Unfortunately, the rest will go in the garbage. (I’m sorry for wasting food, I’m sure you’re cringing)
I will make the trek through the fruits and veggies isle at the local grocery store.
I will see the perfect bunch.
I will buy more bananas.
There is still hope for a better future, as long as I’m willing to take that first bite.
Are you with me? Are you ready to eat that banana?[separator type=”hb-fw-separator” go_to_top=”yes”]
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