Many false beliefs cripple us from experiencing life and relationships the way they were meant to be. Life and relationships were not created to be terrible and miserable. But somehow, we’ve let them get that way.
And really, it’s easy to blame others for these problems, but we need to look within ourselves to see what the true source of misinformation is, and how it even began.
Have you ever thought about your core beliefs? Have you ever had any? Do you know what they are? Our core beliefs can fuel negative or positive emotions, thoughts and behaviors.Do you know who you are? What your purpose is? Click To Tweet
In order to make life and your relationships more meaningful, and better, you will have to uncover your core beliefs, review them and adjust, if needed. Or if wanted! No one can make you adjust or change anything in your life. You are the only one that can and is in charge of making your life better and making your relationships more enjoyable. You are the key to begin the change in your life.
Part of understanding your Core Beliefs is understanding who you are and your worth. Until you know that, your core beliefs may not make much sense or help you have a fulfilled life.
Fear of Exposure
You may not choose to believe in this part, but this is the only way that I have found to make my life and relationships better. I was tired of struggling with who I was. I was so lost, felt like I didn’t belong here. I had no idea what my purpose in life was or that I was even was supposed to have a purpose. Talk about wandering through life aimlessly.
Do you know who you are? What your purpose is?
Why do we just keep on going in this state of mind of wrestling with knowing, feeling and accepting who we are?
These feelings aren’t anything new, as a matter of fact, they go back to the Fall of Man, in the Garden of Eden. Do you remember the part when Adam and Even ate the bad fruit and God asked “Where are you”? God KNEW where they were, but did Adam and Eve know? We’re not talking about location, but where were Adam and Eve in life, who were they? I would say they were feeling a little lost.
Adam’s reply was “I was afraid because I was naked and hid myself”. He was aware of his shortcomings and failures, his “nakedness”. Our natural tendency is to hide who we are when we’re lost or feeling “naked”. I can tell you, that was definitely me (no, I wasn’t running around naked!).
Self-Worth vs God-Worth
When I learned there was a difference between Self-Worth and God-Worth, I was able to start to pick myself up. To have more confidence in who I am. To figure out that I do have a purpose and I’m not here just to wander aimlessly.
So what is the difference in self worth and God worth?
Self-Worth = My Performance + Other’s Opinions
When you run under this type of worth, you are basing everything you do, your life, on other’s opinions and what they think about you and what you do. When I was like this, I was always, and I mean always, worried about what others thought of me. How they perceived me. Worrying about if they thought I was stupid or what I was doing was stupid. I felt like I needed everyone’s approval to get by. It is hard to live like that. I was never happy, because I felt I couldn’t please anyone.
God-Worth = what God’s Truth says, not my performance or what others say
Learning this was not easy for me, I’m a performance driven person. I didn’t grow up with the information that I didn’t have to live and perform for everyone else. That there was someone much bigger than me that I could get my worth from. And what my worth was, is and will always be.
God-Worth isn’t really much of a sense of self-worth, because it’s not about us, it’s who we are in our relationship with Christ. Here, you don’t have to live up to other’s standards. You don’t have to live for them and feel like you don’t have a purpose. Actually God-Worth is a much easier, more satisfying and happier way to live life, at least in my experience.
(If you need more information on what it means to have a relationship with Christ, check here)
Identifying where our Worth lies, with help you to understand what your core beliefs are. In Part 2, we’ll cover how Core Beliefs affect your life and relationships.
If you feel like something is going wrong in your relationships, we’ll peel away the layers and discover the root cause of what’s going on.
In Part 3 we’ll discover the four False Beliefs and apply a solution to help you experience significance in your life.
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