We are tempted by a culture that invites us to live for ourselves and to focus on what we want including money, power and prestige instead of focusing and serving others. A culture that teaches us that it’s ok, we deserve it. I have worked hard. I do everything. So therefore, It’s all about me and what I want.
Have you ever experienced this before? I know I have. In many areas of my life and not just once but many times over. In my career choices, as an adolescent, in my marriage and in parenting. Today’s culture convinces us that this should be our attitude in all areas of our lives and that it’s perfectly ok.
How do I know this is true, other than experiencing it in my own life? Look at the divorce rates. Look at the broken families. Look at our children that are lost now more than ever. They don’t even know who they are supposed to be or better yet, who they should listen to. When media outlets are louder and more convincing than our family life, then Houston, we have a problem!
Why is it so easy to get wrapped up in the everyday culture. Wrapped up in doing what everyone else is doing? Do we think that those other people’s lives are much better than ours, so we need to do what we can to get to their side. Are we lost ourselves and don’t know who to follow or trust? Who to listen to? Who actually has my best interest in mind anyways?
I was talking to a friend just this morning and I saw all of this evidence in our conversation. Not from her specifically, but from the situation that she’s in and how others have treated her. I see that she was seeking others, someone to listen to, to learn from, a culture she thought she could trust. When actually that culture was just out for theirselves. They only wanted a relationship/friendship to get out of it something that would profit them. So sad and heartbreaking.
No wonder why woman have the Wall up! How can we ever learn to put it down and not rely on it as a source of protection from so-called friends and trusted sources?
This in-it-for-myself-culture invades our marriages too. Maybe more than any other area of our lives. Whether you are a believer of Christ or not, you have to admit there is good and evil regardless. And evil will always try to overtake good any day of the week. And what a way to do it. To tear down the very gift you were given. To ruin the very foundation of our existence.
Marriage is a precious gift that we are privileged to take part in. Do you ever think of it like that? You should. Not everyone will experience marriage at all and will always wonder, did they miss out on something great. Treating your marriage like it’s a special rare gift will open your eyes to how you treat your marriage.
Do you have an, it’s all about me marriage or it’s all about you? What have you done for your spouse lately. Or is your spouse bending over backwards for you, to keep up with you, to make YOU happy? If that’s the case, I’m surprised they are still with you. Maybe they are physically, but not mentally.
Treat your spouse as number one, as one of the most precious gifts you’ve ever received. Christmas is almost here, you’ve received your gift already of a wonderful person to spend life with. Now it’s your turn, give your spouse the gift of they matter. The gift of serving. The gift of no other person is more important than them. There is no greater gift than to give of yourself. It can’t be bought with money, it can’t be thrown away and forgotten about. It’s the one true gift everyone needs. Love.
How do you do this?
I can’t give you the exact “top 10 ways to win your husband”, you need to do this for yourself, figure it out. You have a brain, use it! Go take a time out, sit somewhere quiet and write out a list of at least 5 things you can do to show your spouse love, kindness, respect, love, support, trust, empathy, love! Something that you can commit to that changes how you treat them. Think about what your spouse needs, what they have been crying out for, what they would be seeking if they were having an affair (ouch! I know, hard to think about, but you want to be that person that they would be seeking)!
Your spouse needs this.
You children need this.
Your family depends on this!
You can do this!
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