Well that’s a silly question. Is there anything good about your husband? It’s hard to believe but so many marriages have a hard time finding something good about the person they are living life with.
This is the time of the year we tend to reflect on what we’re thankful for. I guess it’s better than not thinking about it anytime of the year. We really should reflect on this subject much more often than once a year. When we think about what we’re thankful for our attitude changes to being nice! And nice is good.
While you’re thinking about all those things that your are thankful for this season, car, home, food, job, clothes and so on. Have you thought about your husband? Oh yeah, that guy living in the other room! That person that you so carefully picked out to marry. Why did you marry him? Why did you choose him? Why did you think you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him?
For me, when I met my husband, he loved being with me and just hanging out. If you’ve read The Five Love Languages, then you might be able to tell that my Love Language is quality time. This meant the world to me. Someone that wanted to be with me no matter what we did. I was thankful! This was good.
Over the years of being married, jobs, careers, challenges, there tended not to be no room for quality time, at least “my quality time”. I have definitely pouted about this, many times. Feeling unthankful!
When I have sat down to reflect the season and what I’m thankful for, all of sudden I’m reminded of the time he HAS spent with me. Taking a walk in the neighborhood, when he would’ve rather watched tv. Going to the park to see God’s beautiful nature with me, when he would’ve rather be working on his latest hobby.
I know life gets busy, but I may have overlooked those precious moments of how good he is to me. He is good!
I am so thankful to have him.
So I have to ask you this… Can you find anything good about your husband?
Maybe your relationship has been hard this year and you’re just not getting along. Maybe it’s been bad for a long time. But I challenge you to find one (only one) good thing about your husband. This one thing doesn’t have to be related to you or how he treats you. Just one good thing about him. It could be that he goes to work to support the family and he doesn’t gripe about it. He maintains the yard without you even asking. He takes out the trash. He spends time with the kids. He is passionate about his hobbies. He is good to his friends.
Do you have that one thing? Now think of nothing else about him except that for one week. When a bad or irritating thought comes to your head, replace it with “he’s really good at this one thing”.
After the first week, find another thing. Everyone has quite a few good qualities about them! I know you can find another. Think on that good thing for a week now. And keep going.
It’s amazing what happens when we dwell on good about a person instead of everything they are doing wrong. We start to see them in a new light. We can see the good in them. We start to appreciate them. We may even like them again! We become thankful.
This is no easy task, and those of you not willing to take on a challenge, will just scoff at this or close this post without thinking twice.
But those of you that have a glimmer of hope. Want things to be good again, this is for you!
Thank you Lord for giving me a husband that loves me like no other. That adores me and bends over backwards for me, even when I’m not deserving. I am truly blessed.
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