Giving respect to your husband is probably harder than just saying to do it. If it was an easy thing, there wouldn’t be so many articles, devotionals and conferences on the subject.
I think many wives struggle with respecting their husbands. And I don’t believe all cases are intentional, but it’s something that just falls by the wayside.
If you are a wife with a strong personality like me, or maybe you were taught to take care of yourself and don’t trust a man ever, that makes it hard to respect the man that is supposed to be taking care of you.
Giving up control is hard. Showing respect to our husbands can feel a bit like giving up control sometimes. Do you agree?
Before we were married, I knew that I was going to be in charge of my life and anything or anyone in it. I didn’t see many marriages great marriages around me. I was raised in a society, a time of where girls need to man-up and take charge.
That is surely what I did too. Just ask my husband. I ran things, our lives, our plans, our everything for quite a few years when we were first married. But I have to admit, I bombed really bad.
Maybe you were or are better than I was. Even with a take-charge-leadership type personality, I just wasn’t cutting it to lead our family. And that may have been because I wasn’t supposed to be the one to be in charge. To lead the family.
Years into our marriage I began to slowly let go of a few things. Only a few things though! It took a long time for me to let someone else take the lead.
I can’t say I’m perfect at this yet. I have my moments. I still feel like I should take charge from time to time. But I get better all the time.
I will tell you, It’s no easy task.
It’s an internal and personal struggle.
What I notice is that when I do let go of that control, of letting go of being the head of the family, I’m actually at peace. I can be a mom and wife again. I’m actually nicer! People like me better. I smile again (which means less wrinkles!).
Part of learning to step back and relinquish control, was learning to respect my husband.
I had to learn to trust him.
He didn’t really ever do anything to lose my trust. It was just me. Control freak me!
Once I started to respect him, things became easier.
I believe respecting your husband and letting go of control go hand-in-hand. You can’t do one without the other.
Take baby steps and start with one of the following ways to respect your husband below. It will be difficult to do, if you’ve been in charge for sometime.
Pray about this, it’s tough to try to do things on your own.
After you’ve done one step, then move onto another and then another. This could take months, don’t give up.
You will be surprised at the peace you will have after giving a little respect to your man!
10 Ways to Respect Your Husband
- Don’t argue everything he says.
- Trust him when he says something. If he’s wrong, that’s ok.
- Give him his space.
- Don’t question everything he does. He’s a grown up, treat him like one.
- Don’t say disrespectful words to him. You’re a grown up, act like one.
- Don’t embarrass him in front of others, ever!
- Don’t talk bad behind his back to anyone!
- Give him credit where credit is due, always.
- Edify him and speak good of him and about him, especially in front of your children.
- Don’t sneak through his personal things; wallet, pant pockets, email, texts. (If you act like you don’t trust him then why should he try so hard to make you trust him? Maybe he should live up to the way you treat him, expect of him and talk about him!)
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